100 Simple Secrets of Happy People


       By David Niven, PhD


What Scientists Have Learned and How One Can Use It

  • Happy people do not experience one success after another and unhappy people, neither one failure after another.
  • Surveys show that happy and unhappy people tend to have had very similar life experiences.
  • The difference is that the average unhappy person spends more than twice as much time thinking about unpleasant events in their lives, while happy people tend to seek and rely upon information that brightens their personal outlook.

  • 1. Your life has a purpose
    2. Use a strategy for happiness
    3. You donít have to win every time
    4. Your goals should be aligned with one another
    5. Choose your comparisons wisely
    6. Cultivate friendship
    7. Turn off the TV
    8. Accept yourself unconditionally
    9. Remember where you came from
    10. Friendship beats money
    11. Have realistic expectations
    12. Be open to new ideas
    13. Share with others how important they are to you.
    14. Believe in yourself
    15. Donít believe in yourself too much
    16. Donít be overprotective
    17. Donít face your problems alone
    18. Develop a household routine
    19. Pay attention. You may have what you want.
    20. Donít let your religion or belief fade..
    21. Do what you say you are going to do.
    22. Donít confuse stuff with success
    23. Every relationship is different
    24. Volunteer
    25. Exercise
    26. If you canít reach your goals, your goals will not hurt you.
    27. Little things have big meanings
    28. Itís not what happened. Itís what you think about what happened.
    29. Laugh
    30. Develop some common interests with loved ones
    31. Share yourself
    32. Donít let your entire life hinge on one element
    33. Busy is better than bored.
    34. Satisfaction is relative
    35. Try to think less about people and things that bother you.
    36. Keep your family close
    37. Eat some fruit everyday
    38. Enjoy what you have
    39. Think in concrete terms
    40. Be socially supportive.
    41. Donít blame yourself
    42. Be a peacemaker
    43. Make your work a calling
    44. Never trade your morals for your goals.
    45. Donít pretend to ignore things your loved ones do that bother you.
    46. Get a good night sleep.
    47. Buy what you like
    48. Accomplish something everyday
    49. Be flexible. Events are temporary
    50. Be your own family
    51. Join a group
    52. Be positive. There are endings, but be prepared.
    53. How we see the world is more important than how the world is.
    54. Keep a pen & paper handy.
    55. Help the next person who needs some minor assistance.
    56. Take care not to harshly criticize your family and friends
    57. Some people like the big picture, some like the details.
    58. Do things you are good at.
    59. Go visit your neighbor.
    60. Smile
    61. You always have a choice
    62. Be agreeable
    63. Donít always accept the TV picture of the world.
    64. Donít ignore one part of your life.
    65. Listen to music
    66. Let your goals guide you
    67. Use your job positively
    68. Donít forget to have fun
    69. Believe in ultimate justice
    70. Reminisce
    71. Be conscientious
    72. Donít dwell on unwinnable conflicts.
    73. Choose your battle wisely.
    74. Enjoy the ordinary
    75. Focus not on the worldís tragedies but on the worldís hope
    76. Get a hobby.
    77. Envying other peopleís relationships is pointless
    78. Give yourself time to adapt to change
    79. Focus on what really matters
    80. Realize that complete satisfaction does not exist.
    81. Surround yourself with pleasant aromas
    82. Donít let others set your goals.
    83. You are a person not a stereotype
    84. Know what makes you happy or sad
    85. Keep reading.
    86. We must feel needed.
    87. Say ďso what.Ē
    88. Have a purpose.
    89. You have not finished the best part of your life.
    90. Money does not buy happiness
    91. What does it all mean?
    92. You decide.
    93. Define your life
    94. Donít think ďwhat if?Ē
    95. Root for the home team
    96. If you are not sure, guess positively.
    97. Age is not to be feared.
    98. Learn to use a computer
    99. * Believe In Yourself
    100. * Enjoy What You Have



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    By David Niven, PhD

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